October 11, 2021

Don't Compare all the time. Stay the Course

Comparison is the Thief of Joy

I've now reached my mid 20's and I feel like life has changed somewhat. Before, when it came to friends and people in my social circle, there was one question, one difference. "Which uni are you at"? Most of my friends were at university, just different ones. Once we graduated, things changed. People went off in a million different directions. Some people are working really hard earning a tonne of money. Some people are travelling the world. Some are now married with kids. Some people are trying to make it in the music industry. It's very easy and very natural to compare ourselves to others and to wonder if we're on the right path.

Seneca, the Greek philosopher, talks about the word euthymia, which he describes as "believing in yourself and trusting that you are on the right path, and not being in doubt by following the myriad footpaths of those wandering in every direction".

You're not going to be 100% sure about every decision you make. And from time to time, it's worth checking in and evaluating how your life is going and the path you are on. But once you've decided, you don't need to second guess yourself or compare yourself to others. You are trying to live your life in a way that makes you happy, and what other people are doing is (usually) completely irrelevant to that. There's no need to compare, there's no need to think that you should be further along than you currently are.  You are where you're supposed to be, and you are headed in the right direction.

Stay the course.

Inspired by: The Daily Stoic - Ryan Holiday